Part 4 takes a peep into Providing Direct Guidance and Explaining your Reasons as one of the means of effective discipline. Positive child guidance and discipline promotes children’s self-esteem, helps children develop responsibility, and influences children in making thoughtful choices. Teaching young children appropriate behaviour and self-discipline is a difficult task that requires patience and thoughtful attention.
Tip 4: Provide Direct Guidance and Explain Your Reasoning
When you guide your kids, always be direct and clear. Give reasons and explanations for rules (keep it simple for younger children). Always make sure your directions and requests state what to do, as opposed to what not to do.
For instance, I focus on reminding my children to “walk their feet” and explain how walking keeps them from getting hurt, instead of saying “don’t run.” It can help to drive the notion home if you retell a story of when a sibling was running and got hurt.
I speak to my teenager in a similar way. I might say, for example, “It’s late and you have to go to school in the morning. You should get to bed in 15 minutes so you won’t be too tired. Last week you were late because you overslept.” Sometimes he does go to bed on his own, and other times 15 minutes pass and I need to jog his memory again. But he hardly ever gives me a hard time if I provide a relevant past example.
Keeping instructions short and simple make guidance more effective.